My Life Purpose: Be the Best Me That I Can Be

On Sundays I write on Spirituality, Faith and Ethics. I do it because I believe we’re all spiritual beings and have some sort of a moral compass in our lives. You can learn more by clicking here.

For as long as there have been people living in this world, people of every age, race and gender have sought to understand the meaning and purpose of life.

At one level, it’s the stuff that philosophers and theologians question and debate. At another level, it is something that all of us grapple with at one time or another.

Today, it seems like more and more people are searching for the meaning and purpose of their lives.  If you doubt me, simply consider the fact that over 30 million copies of a book called The Purpose Driven Life, by Rick Warren, have been sold since it was first published in 2002.

I’ve been trying to remember when I first learned that my life had a purpose. I don’t mean when I first discovered what my purpose was…but when I discovered that there was a reason for my existence.

I think it must have been when I was a child, thanks to the influence of my parents, church and school.  As far back as I can remember, I’ve believed that God created me, wants a relationship with me, and put me here on earth for a reason.

Of course, this begs the question:  “What is the reason?  What is it that God wants me to be?”  I’ve discovered that this question has led to one of the greatest adventures in my life.  Gratefully, my parents, teachers, pastors, mentors, friends and others have helped me over the years to understand and clarify my purpose and calling.

Through reading the scriptures and listening to the experiences of others, I’ve discovered that God wants me to be the best “me” that I can be, according to the passions, interests, talents, skills and abilities He’s given me.  Gratefully, he doesn’t expect me to be whom I’m not.  He simply wants me to live up to my full potential as the “me” he made me to be.

What happens when we don’t understand and live according to our God-given purpose?  From my observation, we can experience more stress, conflict, feelings of unfulfillment, work-life imbalance, frustration and even a sense of hopelessness and depression.  These are all things I want to avoid in my life – how about you?

So, do you know that you have a purpose in life?  And do you know what your life’s purpose is?  One of my goals here at Life Compass is to help you discover your purpose and live out every day…to help you be the best version of you that you can be.

Why?  Because I’ve discovered that my purpose in life is to help others find more freedom, purpose and fulfillment in their life and work.  I hope you’ll come along with me on the journey, and I hope you’ll share your questions and thoughts!

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Know Your Life’s Purpose…Make Great Decisions?

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In almost every moment of the day, we find ourselves being confronted with questions and opportunities.  Our lives are a constant flow of decisions. What will I eat?  What will I wear?  Where will I go?  Whom will I go with?  What will I do?  What will I buy?  Where will I live?  Life is always asking us questions. Often they seem small and insignificant, but in truth they can significantly impact our lives.

We have options.  I could watch television for an hour every day or exercise for an hour every day.  I could eat McDonald’s every day for lunch or I can have soup and a salad.  We choose between various options a hundred times a day, and our choices impact our health, happiness, well-being, and destiny.

In his classic poem, “The Road Not Taken,” Robert Frost describes coming to a fork in the road and having to choose between the two paths that lie before him.  The poem closes with one of the most famous lines of modern literature:

“I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.”

Too often the poem is interpreted as being about one monumental moment, one enormous decision, that determines the outcome of a person’s whole life.  It is as if, once this one decision is made, all is well, and the rest of the road is smooth and slopes gently downhill.

The poem is not about one moment in a person’s life.  It is about every moment of our lives.  We find ourselves constantly at a crossroads.  No sooner do we make one decision and take three or four steps down either path than we come upon two roads diverging in a yellow wood…again!

The fork in the road is constantly appearing in our lives.

The ability to choose comes from a sense of purpose.  Leaders are charged with the responsibility of making decisions, because they above all others are supposed to understand the purpose of the people or organization they lead.  Direction comes from an understanding of where you are going.  If you don’t know where you are going, you are lost.

When we have a sense of our purpose, the decisions of our daily lives can be easily assessed with that purpose in mind.  Direction emerges in our lives by bringing our decisions before the altar of our essential purpose.

If you make great decisions, you will live a great life.

As I’ve shared here before, I’ve been on a journey of discovering and living my life’s purpose for about ten years now.  Over the last two years, I made a series of decisions regarding my career and lifestyle.  I weighed those decisions based on my life’s purpose and goals, and they ended up being great decisions.

What about you?  How has knowing your purpose made decision-making easier?  Or, can you point to an instance when you know you could have made a better decision if you had known your purpose more clearly?

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Can E-mail Addiction Keep You From Achieving Your Goals?

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Don't let e-mail addiction ruin your productivity.

Earlier this week, in a mentoring group I belong to, we talked about the power that e-mail, Facebook, Twitter and other such communication tools can have over people.

I think everyone in the group knew someone who was, or admitted that they themselves were, addicted to checking their email, etc. every 5 minutes or so, either on their computer or smartphone.

I just did some quick addition, and was shocked to see how this adds up:

If you check your e-mail every 5 minutes when you’re at work, then you are checking it 12 times an hour. Multiply 12 times an hour by 8 hours per work day, 5 days a week, and 50 weeks a year (uh, that’s assuming you don’t check your e-mail when you’re on vacation). This adds up to 24,000 times per year!

Now, if you work in customer service, then checking your email frequently is an important part of your job.

But for most of us, if we’re checking our e-mail 24,000 times a year, we are probably sacrificing something somewhere, don’t you think?

For me, if I check email, Facebook or Twitter frequently at the office, I lose focus pretty quickly on the task at hand. I end up getting sucked into conversations, start looking at other links and sites that people recommend.  And all of a sudden, the day is done and I haven’t accomplished all that I had planned to.

At home, if I’m not careful, I could spend so much time connecting with others online that I neglect my family sitting in the same room.

What about you, could e-mail addiction keep you from being productive, achieving your goals and living the life you want?

Four Ways to Keep E-mail from Dominating Your Life

Here are four things you can do to maintain balance and keep e-mail from dominating your life:

  1. Track Your E-mail Time Usage – If you’re not sure if e-mail addiction is a problem for you, you may be in denial. Just kidding! You can know for sure by tracking how you spend your time for a week using a time tracking tool.  Lifehacker did a review of some of the best time tracking applications, including Klok, Manic Time, SlimTime, Rescue Time, and Project Hamster.
  2. Schedule time for e-mail – At the office, try checking email only once an hour and see how that goes for you.  Or maybe just three times a day – first thing in the morning, before or after lunch, and mid-late afternoon.  If you think you might forget to check it (personally, I know I would not forget) you can set an alarm to remind you when it is time.
  3. Handle each e-mail only once – We can save time and be more productive if we handle each e-mail only once, instead of letting it sit in our in-box for action or a response at later time.
  4. Unsubscribe from lists and e-newsletters that you rarely read anymore or that don’t add value to your life.

Has anyone else struggled with e-mail addiction…and do you have any other tips or suggestions?  Please share them in the Comments below.

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Why You Should Not Listen to Me

When I began Life Compass, I put together a list of reasons why you might want to listen to what I have to say on topics like how to change your life, how to maintain work-life balance, and how to achieve your dreams.

I was recently thinking of some reasons why you should NOT listen to me:

  1. I don’t have it all figured out yet; nor do I have all the answers.
  2. I still struggle from time to time with maintaining balance in certain areas of my life.
  3. I still struggle with some habits (like drinking lots of Coke) that keep me from achieving some of my dreams (like weight loss)
  4. I’m not an “expert” or a “guru.”
  5. I’m a slow learner – I’ve had to learn some lessons more than once or twice.
  6. I don’t have a lot of experience.  I’m not quite 40, and I’ve only been pursuing a more balanced and meaningful lifestyle for 10 years.

So, these are some of the reasons why I think you should not listen to me.

But, if you want to ride along with me on the journey to create more freedom, purpose and fulfillment in our lives and work, I’ll welcome your companionship, thoughts, and ideas.

Quick Tips to Unclutter Your Office and Life

c52acb90fbe4fe0bc9eaf5268ce1848d Quick Tips to Unclutter Your Office and LifeI’ve observed that being disorganized can add undo stress to my life and keep me from work-life balance.  Clutter has been a real problem for me at times – both at home and the office.

Unclutterer recently shared five uncluttering things you can do in your office right now:

  1. Grab all of those post-it notes off your screen, phone, keyboard, and bulletin board and permanently capture that information. Enter phone numbers into your address book, put to-do items on your calendar, and hide your passwords in a place where snoopers can’t find them.
  2. Gather up all of your writing implements, and test your pens and markers. Get rid of those that don’t work, and sharpen all of your pencils. Finally, put all of these items in an organized container that is near where you use them.
  3. Process an inch of paperwork from your desk’s inbox. File, sign, scan, read or return the papers as necessary. Don’t put anything back into your inbox.
  4. Get everything out of your office that doesn’t belong there. Walk that dead printer to the IT department for recycling, and give your co-worker back the scissors you snagged off her desk when you couldn’t find yours.
  5. Check your bulletin board for any out-dated office phone lists, take-out menus, or memos, and drop them into the recycling bin or shredder. Rearrange what is left so that the information you reference most often is in the spot that is easiest to see.

Here are my thoughts on each point:

  1. I have a bunch of post-it notes on my desk. I’ve attempted to keep all notes in my computer, but I’ve gotten lazy lately.
  2. I don’t really have a problem with pens, pencils, etc.
  3. I really have to get rid of paper.  I have aspired to go “paperless” but I still have a habit of writing notes and ideas on paper, and then setting them aside to be entered into my computer later.  Right now, I’m carrying around probably 3-4 inches of paperwork in my computer bag.  During the State of the Union speech last night, I processed about an inch of paperwork.  It felt great!
  4. Guilty again.  I moved to a new office a year ago, and am still not totally unpacked and settled.  I’ve got a few things that need to be moved out of my office and into my storage room.
  5. I don’t have a bulletin board, but I do have a few things that I need to toss.  I just need to do it!

I know that if I can conquer clutter in my office, I’ll free up valuable time and reduce stress.  What about you?

Would you add anything else to this list?  Do you keep things pretty neat and clean, or do you struggle with clutter too like me?  Please share your thoughts and comments below.

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How to Shave Ten Hours Off Your Work Week

What would you do if you could shave ten hours off your work week?  Would you spend more time at your with the family?  Pursue that degree you’ve put off?  Or start that business you’ve always wanted?

Michael Hyatt, the CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers, offers seven suggestions on how you can shave ten hours off your work week:

  1. Limit the time you spend online. In my experience, the Web is most people’s #1 time suck. Yes, I know it is a wonderful tool for research, blah, blah, blah. But I often catch myself and my family members mindlessly surfing from one page to another with no clear objective in mind. Before you know it, you can eat up several hours a day. The key is to put a fence around this activity and limit your time online. Set a timer for yourself if you have to.This is true for Web surfing and it is also true for email. Unless you are in a customer service position where you have to be “always-on,” you should check email no more than two to three times a day.
  2. Touch email messages once and only once. Okay, let’s be honest. How many times do you read the same email message over and over again? Guess what? The information hasn’t changed. That’s right. You are procrastinating.I have a personal rule: I will only read each message once then take the appropriate action: do, delegate, defer, file or delete it.
  3. Follow the two-minute rule. My to-do list is very short. It never gets longer than about thirty items. This is because I do everything I can immediately. If I need to make a phone call, rather than entering it on my to-do list, I just make the call.If I can complete the action in less than two minutes, I just go ahead and do it. Why wait? You will be amazed at how much this “bias toward action” will reduce your workload.Conversely, when you don’t do it promptly, you end up generating even more work for yourself and others. The longer a project sits, the longer it takes to overcome inertia and get it moving again. The key is to define the very next action and do it. You don’t have to complete the whole project, just the next action.
  4. Stop attending low-impact meetings. If there’s one thing we can probably all agree on, it’s that we go to too many meetings. Either the meeting organizer isn’t prepared, the meeting objective isn’t defined, or you can’t really affect the outcome one way or the other.Every meeting should have a written objective and a written agenda. If you don’t have these two minimal items, how do you know when the meeting is over? Could this also explain why meetings seem to drag on and on until everyone is worn out?  If the content of the meeting is irrelevant to you and your job or if you don’t feel that you really add that much to the discussion, ask to be excused.
  5. Schedule time to get your work done. This is crucial. As the saying goes, “nature abhors a vacuum.” If you don’t take control of your calendar, someone else will. You can’t spend all your time in meetings and still get your work done.Instead, you need to make appointments with yourself. Yes, go ahead and actually put them on your calendar. Then, when someone asks for a meeting, you can legitimately say, “No, I’m sorry, that won’t work. I already have a commitment.” And you do—to yourself!
  6. Cultivate the habit of non-finishing. Not every project you start is worth finishing. Sometimes we get into it and realize, “This is a waste of time.” Fine, then give yourself permission to quit.I do this all the time with reading. It’s why I am able to read so many articles and books. Here’s publishing’s dirty little secret: most books are not worth finishing. Most books could be cut in half and you wouldn’t miss a thing. The key is to read as long as you are interested and then stop. There are too many great books to read without getting bogged down in the merely good ones.
  7. Engage in a weekly review and preview. Part of the reason our lives get out of control is because we don’t plan. Once a week, you have to come up for air. Or—to change the metaphor—you have to take the plane up to 30,000 feet, so you can see the big picture.I generally do this on Sunday evening. I review my notes from the previous week and look ahead to my calendar.

Here’s my take on his time-shaving, and time saving, suggestions:

  1. I think he’s totally right about the web being a huge time suck.  Setting a timer is a great idea and I’m going to give it a try. Should be easy since there’s an app for that on my iPhone.
  2. I admit that I really struggle here at times, and I believe I would save a lot of time if I took his advice and only handled email once.
  3. I followed this suggestion yesterday and it worked well for me.  I felt like I accomplished a lot of work in a short time.
  4. I don’t have any daily or weekly meetings to worry about, so I’m not wasting any time here.  Whew!
  5. I do schedule time to do certain tasks or projects, but sometimes I don’t give myself enough time to get it done, or leave any margin for the extra stuff that comes my way.  I’ve got to remember to schedule margin time!
  6. Now I don’t feel so bad about all the books I’ve started to read and never finished!
  7. I’ve been doing a weekly review for a long time now (I do it on Fridays) and have found it to be very valuable personally.

Are any of these suggestions part of your regular routine?  If so, how are they working for you?  If not, which ones would you want to try?  Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

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