What I Want From Life

In my last post, I shared my Monday Motivator for today and I encouraged you to ask yourself the question, “What Do I Want From Life?”  I promised that in this post, I’d share my answer.  Here goes…

What I want from life:  I want to…

  • Live to my full potential (spiritually, emotionally, financially, career, etc.), and help my wife and children to do the same.
  • Achieve my dreams, fulfill my life’s purpose, and help my wife and children do the same.
  • Use my skills, abilities, passions and influence to make a real difference in the lives of others in my community and world.
  • Have the freedom (time and money) to arrange my work around the life I want and believe would honor God.
  • Live generously by blessing and encouraging others.
  • Annually increase my giving to, and participation in, causes that are important to me and my family.

I originally wrote this out over a year ago, after being encouraged to do so by a mentor.  It took some time, because I did a lot of refining and rewording.  I’m glad I went through this process, because it helped me sort through my dreams and goals and helped me to hone in on what, to me, was most important.

You might have noticed that my family was mentioned several times in this list.  That’s because I want to bring them along with me on this journey.  I’ve met and heard about too many people who “win” at work, but not at home.  They achieve the applause of the world, but their family barely knows them.

I’m not perfect, but I do have a growing desire to live a balanced life and to achieve success in all of my life areas, not just in my career.  What about you?

What Do You Want From Life?

Today, I want to share with you a poem I first heard over 20 years ago when I was a university student.  Napoleon Hill included it in the original edition of Think and Grow Rich.  The author is unknown.

I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store.
For Life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.
I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have willingly paid.

Some observations:

  1. We can get what we want out of life, but we must pay a price.
  2. Some don’t ask much from life…and they don’t contribute much either.
  3. That last point reminds me of the Master Dream List.  Some people just don’t dream anymore, or they don’t think their dreams will make a difference because they don’t take the right steps to fulfill those dreams.
  4. When we consider how we spend our time in work-related or income-producing activities, we should choose to engage in activities with the highest reward or payoff.
  5. The earlier the better – meaning, the sooner we understand and employ these principles in our lives, the more success we’ll enjoy.

Is there anything else you’d add to my observations?  If so, please share your ideas in the Comments section below.

Also, if you haven’t taken the time to do this ever, or in a really long time, why not take some time today to answer this question: What do I want from life? I’ll share my answer to that question in my next post.

Life Change Goal – Live to Full Spiritual Potential

On Sundays I write on Spirituality, Faith and Ethics.  Here’s why.

Ten years ago, when I first began using my Master Dream List, I had all kinds of goals for weight loss, income, family, career, etc.  But I didn’t really have anything written in terms of a spiritual goal.

Then one of my mentors suggested I write out a simple goal that says…

I will live to my full spiritual potential and help others do the same.

Over time, I’ve discovered that one of the best ways to make progress on this goal is to ask myself, every month or so, this question:

What three changes in my life would most please God right now?

It’s an interesting question because the answer is based both on my perception of who I am and how I’m doing, and who God is and what He expects of me.

If you have a desire to grow spiritually, you might want to ask yourself this question too.

Unemployed? Start a Business!

I’ve heard too many stories lately of people who have been out of work for six months, a year, and longer.  Lately, I’ve wondered which is better in this economy:  spend six months or a year trying to find a job, or spend six months or a year starting your own business?

I just read this story on Dane Carlsons’ Business Opportunities Weblog, which he got from CNNMoney.com:

In Detroit, a city with rampant unemployment, big crowds in the middle of the day may mean someone is giving out freebies.

But on a recent workday, over 450 people packed an auditorium downtown. They weren’t looking for a hand out, sympathy or even a job application. They were looking to start their own business.

These would-be entrepreneurs flocked to an auditorium on Wayne State University’s campus with ideas big and small.

Attendees also took part in a variety of workshops including ones on how to raise money, how to save on shipping costs and how to run a service or lifestyle businesses. Each attendee got a chance to meet one-on-one with a business counselor and the opportunity to sign up for more free classes.

Some proposals focused on technical businesses — a former Ford manufacturing expert wants to start a consulting firm advising companies on how to make their manufacturing processes more efficient, while a former software engineer had started a company that makes Web-based system that hosts emergency contact and other medical information for children.

I applaud these 450 people for taking this first step toward entrepreneurship.  And I hope they help make Detroit, and the state of Michigan, a new land of opportunity.

Sometimes, it Pays to Work for Free

Yesterday, I shared Four Things You Can Do TODAY to Help You Find the Work You Love in a Down Economy. They are:

  1. Build Your Personal Network
  2. Volunteer for a Cause or Organization You Care About
  3. Take a Good Look at Yourself
  4. Start that Business You’ve Always Wanted

I mentioned in that post that one of the best ways to change your life, and career, is to volunteer for a cause or organization that you care about.

This is a great strategy for those who are unemployed or under-employed, because it helps you build your personal network, allows you to immediately use your skills (or learn new ones), helps you to immediately live your passions, and if you’ve been out of work for a long time, gives you a boost in your self-esteem.

And…it just MIGHT lead to a job with the organization you’re serving with.  That has happened to me on four occasions.

The first time happened when I was a university student.  It was my senior year and I wasn’t quite sure what I was going to do, after graduation, with my degree in political science.  One day, I read in the newspaper about an organization in our community that had world-wide influence.  It was involved in public policy, economics, and freedom from a religious perspective – all topics that interested me as a student of political science.

I contacted them to ask if they had any internship opportunities.  I came in for an interview and was “hired” to begin working or them once or twice a week.  That was in January.  By April, with graduation approaching, they offered me a full-time position.  The internship was great because it gave both them and me a no-cost, or low-cost (they didn’t pay me a salary, but they did buy my lunch!) opportunity to get to know each other.  And it gave me the opportunity to prove my worth to the organization.

Three years later, while still working for that same organization, I began volunteering once every two weeks with an organization I learned about at church.  This group was involved in crisis intervention for mentally-ill homeless people in our community – people who, through no fault of their own, had “fallen through the cracks” of our community social service system and were living in abandoned buildings, along the railroad tracks, under loading docks and bridges.  After two months of volunteering with this organization every couple of weeks, I felt it was time to make a career move in order to work with them full-time.  This was a huge commitment because I had to raise my own funds in order to work with them.

Three years later, while still working for this organization, I began helping our church develop financial management, job training, counseling, and other programs to help low-income people in the church’s rapidly changing neighborhood.  Eventually, this led to a full-time position at the church.

Seven years later, while still working for the church, I was invited to serve on the board of directors of an organization that was involved in leadership development and economic and community development in indigenous Native communities in the U.S. and Canada.  A few years later, I was hired as the group’s executive director.

Is my situation unique?  Maybe.  But it does illustrates the power of volunteering to help you find the work you love:

  1. It allows the organization to achieve its goals through your experience.
  2. It allows you to make a difference and do what you love.
  3. It opens up doors of opportunity, either directly as in my case, or indirectly by putting you in contact with people who can be on the look-out for the position that is right for you.  This is especially important even if you have no desire to work for a nonprofit organization.  If you want to work in the corporate world, chances are good that the people you need to connect with are involved as volunteers or members at your local community, civic, charitable, and arts organizations.

Has anyone else out there secured a job, either directly or indirectly, through volunteering?  Please share your experience.

How to Find the Work You Love – Even in a Down Economy

In today’s economy, most people who are employed are glad to have ANY job – even if it is one they hate or feel unfulfilled in.  Because having ANY job is better than having NO job, right?

If this describes you, do you just resolve yourself to wait until the economy gets better before making a career switch?  Or is there something you can do now – TODAY – to find the work you love?

And if you’re unemployed right now, do you just take ANY job that comes your way, or can you really find your dream job in today’s environment?

Here are Four Things You Can Do TODAY to Help You Find the Work You Love in a Down Economy – whether you’re currently working or not:

1.  Build Your Personal Network – Today, with all the social networking websites like Facebook and MySpace, it is easier than ever to build your personal network.  That old roommate from college, whom you haven’t talked to in 15 years, just may know someone who has open positions that you’re looking for.

I’m not sure if it is still true today, but a few years ago, I read that only 12% of the jobs that are available are advertised.  The rest are promoted, and found, by word-of-mouth.  I know that’s been true in my own life.  Several of my previous jobs were not advertised.  In fact, some were created just for me.  I’ll tell you more about that another time.

So take the time to connect with old friends and acquaintances.  Let people know what kind of job you’re looking for.  Chances are, someone you know knows someone who is looking for you!  In fact, I just called a friend a few days ago to ask if they knew of anyone who could do some work for me.  They immediately had a person in mind, and I connected with them right away.

2.  Volunteer for a Cause or Organization You Care About – If you’re unemployed, or under-employed, a great way to build your network, use your skills (or learn new ones), live your passions, and find your dream job, is to volunteer for an organization or cause that you care about.

It could be your place of worship, a community or civic group, or another non-profit or non-governmental organization.  There’s always a chance that you might be hired by the organization you’re volunteering for.  That has happened to me on four occasions!

But even if that doesn’t happen for you, you’re now in a place where you’re doing what you love for a cause you care about.  You feel good about yourself and have a renewed sense of energy, making it easier for you to do the job that pays the bills, but you’re not so excited about.  And you’re meeting interesting people and building your network of connections.

3.  Take a Good Look at Yourself – Now is a great time for a little self-assessment.  What are your unique skills and abilities?  What are your personality traits?  What are your values, dreams, and passions?

Taking the time to know who you are and what you want out of life will help you in every aspect of your life – not just your career search.  Don’t make the mistake of just settling for the job you went to school for (if you don’t like it anymore), or the one you thought would pay the most money.  There is no lasting fulfillment in that.

Check out my Ten Pillars of Lifestyle Design for strategies to help you assess your current reality, identify your skills, abilities, and personality traits, and clarify your values, dreams and passions.

4.  Start that Business You’ve Always Wanted – If you’ve aspired to start your own business someday, either full or part-time, that someday is TODAY!  It has never been easier to start something small and grow it big…whether it be retail sales, consulting, Internet sales, services like cleaning or cooking, etc.  Lots of websites offer help in how to do this.  Even the government does, through the Small Business Administration.

Which one of these tips, to help you find the work you love, have you tried?  Or which one sounds like something you want to do? Why or why not?

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